Dharmakshetre Kurushektre


starts the Geeta, i think. The best thing about being half baked is you can sway on either sides. You can be knowing and unknowing and still get by. Now if you are an expert, you definitely cannot do that. If you do not know something, you can't say it telling it could be true. So staying true to that, since I am not an exponent of the Gita, I can spell it eitherways and quote anything. So having got that message hammered away, lets get to the point :

I was explaining to my kids that you have to do your karma with dharma. And somehow we started talking about the above line. Since the above is my favourite line from the Mahabharat. It is not like it has been a favourite for long, but I just said it once in the recent past in this incident with my kids and it became a hit with me. I said it a few more times cuz it sounded really nice. Go ahead try it out, give it that cantanation effect. It is fun, I tell you..

So I was telling, there is war everywhere, when you twins are arguing with each other, it is a war. It is a kurukshetra. Now you can turn that into a dharmakshetra. Whatever it meant in the Gita, i am not sure, but this is what I meant when i told my kids. When there is a war going on, turn it into one abuot doing your dharma and then there will be no war. If everyone is doing their dharma, there will be no one left to war. So then kids wanted to talk about Drona and Bhishma and how they are not bad people. That is so true, but by association they had to do their dharma of being loyal to Duryodhana. So if you have to do adharma by association, then you have to seek atonement in my book.

That day I had to do adharma myself. I did not realise that right away but after considerable thought, I had to realise that what i did was pure adharma. And its results have already been accrued in my karma bank. Past cannot be undone but realization will make me act wisely.

Tejas and I walked down to his bus. He was already a minute late and the bus was kind enough to wait. He realized midway that he forgot his violin. So i told him to proceed and ask the bust to wait. Instead the buslady ignored his words and kept going. By the time, I reached the stop with the essentials in hand, the bus had gone. I called the buslady to come back. She refused. I called the bus coordinator. She called the bus lady. Then called me telling that they are far away and the bus cannot come back. I gave her an earful, became sentimental and played some emotional cards. The next minute the bus was turning back and coming to pick up his violin.

Anytime you do not feel good, even when you win, is a sure sign that you did not do your dharma. Anytime you do not feel good , when you lose is also a sign of adharma. When you are happy in winning and losing, then you are doing your dharma, cuz in duty there is no like or dislike, there is no want or need, there is no choice , there is no being happy or sad. Duty is duty and it is best to like your duty. So anyway.. Tejas comes back and I ask him like did buslady yell at him, did he know that all this drama happened.

He tells me all the 7th graders were happy that they got to miss assembly and Meena was upset that her class picnic trip will leave without her, but so hopefully that did not happen.

So for my son's sake who was already in the wrong by going late to the busstop and not taking his things along with him, I fought tooth and nail to make his wrong right, but in the process so many people lost out.

So for this to never happen again, we are making his bag ready overnight and 2 minutes early to bustop.


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I will never buy suede chappals again and so should you not 


They are smooth velvety slick that your feet keep slipping out. 

Olive Oil, Honey & Egg Yolk Facial Mask

We take eggs for breakfast and i have tons of yolk left. 



yesterday i mixed it with curd and left it on my hair. 

Today I wanted to do something different and came across this mask.


 Separate one egg  - using only the yolk - in a small bowl or ramekin
2.)  Add 1 teaspoon of honey and 1 teaspoon of olive oil
3.)  Mix until combined and smooth;  apply to a clean face.  Rest with it on your face for about 15 minutes then rinse with warm water.  I like to do this mask right before a shower because it can get kind of sticky and hard to get out of your hair. 
   Your skin will be well-moisturized, smooth and glowing.  You can store the extra mask in the refrigerator for about a week or so and use it as often as you like.

Fashion is innate

Finally i have come to believe that fashion sense, though cultivated, can be innate as well and those kids are just super at fashion, just by themselves.



kathaa kathayaam kaaranamaam

There are many Malayalam and tamil phrases that I have a vague memory of. The following is one of them

kathaa kathayaam kaaranamaam 

I only knew the starting of this phrase

finally got the ending.. woohoo..

kaaranathaaal oru toranamaam..


kathaa kathayaam kaaranamaam kaaranathaaal oru toranamaam..
Out of the three children i have, one turned out to be normal. She pushes my buttons instantly and my anger raises spontaneously, she teaches me I am but a normal person and not the extraordinary mother I want to be.

God has sent her to me, to show that grace when shown at ordinary situations is but ordinary and grace when shown under pressure is anything but ordinary

Thank you God, for sending me to her, to challenge me constantly, to defy me and to make me into a stronger, kinder, gentler and firmer person that i wish to be

Thank you Lord, you always look upon me, smile at me, and keep pushing my envelopes so I never have to have a dull moment in my life

Please look upon me, forever

with lots of love Gurudev

A's mom